it's either or.

People are seemingly never content with the cards dealt to them by the lord above. They want to play a game that their cards don't allow them to win with. Can't win at poker with a good spades hand.
If your weird, you won't have alot of good friends. Just a few. But those few will ride to the end of the earth with you.
If your selfish, you can't expect people around you to give you their last.
It's impossible to have it both ways. People consistently and carelessly run into this fact of life like flies into a windshield. And then choose to get pissed at the result. It's the balance of the world. Balance hates those "have their cake and eat it too" bastards. Just too damn greedy. Then scale starts to tip.
At some point we all have to determine what is truly important to us, in all aspects of our lives. It gives us a standard by which we can base our decision upon.
Is it more important to be true to your cards, or to have what we want?
Sometimes they coincide, but don't hold your breath.

It's either or.