national geographic.

i've spent alot of time these past couple of weeks thinking about why people end up the way that they do. not what jobs they end up in, or houses they end up buying, but why do we start off so much the same, and end up so differently. i do believe that when we are born, we are more alike than we are different. genetics, how we were treated in the womb all play apart in how we initially come out, but growing up in this world is what begins to differentiate us. or so it seems. we all do seem so different, in the way we look, speak, act, and do, but that's because people don't take the time to look closer at people. i mean shit, we don't even take the time to look at our surroundings, much less the people who fill those surroundings. instead of understanding, we've filled our vocabulary with words as dissmissive as a backhanded wave. crazy, slutty, stupid. i can't even blame the words, but how we use them. we tag people with them, and then cast them off into the wilderness, with periodic check in's to see if the behavior matches the tag. it distances them and their action from us and ours, and that gives us comfort. that they are that way, but not us.

it's easy, but sure as hell not right.

but if you start off with the premise that we all pretty much come in here on a level playing field, then it has to be a reason they ended up so supposedly slutty. understand that, then you begin to understand that person. they went left, and you went right, and it was as simple as that. they aren't horrible losers or lames, weak or pathetic. they are what you could have been, or could be or...are. you bring them back from the wilderness. or you join them out there. either way, your alot closer to them than you ever thought you could be, in more ways than two.